I just read an article on medium.com from the Heritage Foundation on young adults’ attitudes toward marriage today. While it is true that findings of some research quoted in the article may not necessarily expand to the general population it pointed to a secular realization of a spiritual reality regarding marriage.
As we learned in our interviews with over 100 young adults in a mostly white working-class town in Ohio, most young people are neither adamantly opposed to marriage nor completely supportive: They are conflicted about marriage. They hope to get and stay married, providing for their own children the family stability that many of them did not have growing up.
Young adults today are conflicted about marriage. As the article goes on to explain, they are not opposed to marriage. To the contrary, it seems that they believe marriage is the ideal and it is unreachable. They desire for themselves what they believe marriage should be: long lasting, totally committed (perhaps sacrificial?) love for one person for the rest of their lives. They just don’t think they can attain that given all they have heard and experienced in their personal lives.
So much of that resonates with the state of all vocational discernment today. There are many men and women today who look at the priesthood and religious life and see so many unhappy, unfulfilled men and women. They might also recognize that there are even more who are joyful and satisfied, but they don’t trust that they can become one of the vast majority that is happy.
I believe this mindset is a symptom of not having a personal relationship with our Living God. The truth is, that the more one commits to his relationship with Jesus Christ and dedicates his life to giving it to the Lord, the more likely it is that he will be able to give himself entirely to his spouse (whether that is the Church herself or his wife). He will understand and will have already experienced what it is to think of himself second and want only what the one he loves wants of him. He will have understood that even when much is expected of him or when it seems like he is being put to the test by the one he loves so dearly, it is not for lack of love that he is being tested, but because it is another opportunity to choose to love and to recognize just how much more he can love. In this relationship with God, we learn what it is to trust, to have faith, and to truly love!
Marriage is not something one should have as a goal in life, but it is something into which one is called by God. “Who do you want me to be and how do you want me to serve you?” These are the first questions we should all ask God as we begin thinking about our future. If the answers to those questions lead us to marriage, then it is only through the relationship we have already built with Christ in exploring the depth of those questions that we can take the leap into marriage with confidence.
On Saturday, July 30th, Life’s 5th Quarter will be hosting its next Youth Mass to pray for life. The mass will be celebrated by Fr. Andre-Joseph LaCasse, OP at Holy Name Catholic Church on Auburn Ave. Mass will begin at 8:00 AM and will be followed by a procession and the praying of the rosary in front of Planned Parenthood on Auburn. All are invited and encouraged to attend.
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Two days ago, Mr. Tim Glemkowski wrote a fantastic article entitled “The 7 Most Common Mistakes You Can Make While Discerning Your Vocation.” It is full of great advice for all of us and I encourage you to take about 5 minutes and read the article. As an introduction though, here are the 7 mistakes upon which he expounds:
- Religious life is the only path to holiness and marriage is an easy way out
- Not having a spiritual director OR having too many
- Thinking about your discernment too much
- “If I don’t pick the right vocation, I’ll never be really happy.”
- Suffering is a sign that something is wrong
- Chasing your feelings around
- Being unwilling or afraid to commit
Again, these are all common mistakes in discernment and Mr. Glemkowski does a fantastic job of explaining how and why each of these is a mistake that can keep you stuck in your spiritual journey of discipleship. Read it and save the link. You’ll want to read it again.
For more practical suggestions on discernment,click here.
Here is this month’s Clergy Communications submission from the Vocation Office. Please help us spread the word about all that we are doing to build up the culture of vocations in the Archdiocese of Cincinnati. For more information about any of these announcements and events, please feel free to reach out to us or contact directly those listed in the announcements.
New Ordination Videos: For the first time, the Catholic Telegraph and the Vocation Office have each created videos from this year’s ordination. The Telegraph created two different videos, a trailer and a full length video of the Mass, and they can be seen here: www.thecatholictelegraph.com/category/vocations. The Vocation Office video which includes brief descriptions about all parts of the ordination Mass can be found here: www.cincinnnativocations.org/category/video. Please share these on your parish websites and social media outlets.
Looking for Visit Opportunities: The Vocation Office is looking for weekday opportunities to come and speak to students in our parish religious education programs, Catholic high schools and grade schools about discernment and vocations. Please contact Fr. Schmitmeyer to schedule these opportunities for the 2016-17 school year.
Attention All Teachers: Vocation Awareness Packets Available: Each year, the Vocation Office makes available complete Vocation Awareness lesson plans for teachers of all grade levels, both in Catholic schools and PSR programs. These educational materials can be used anytime throughout the school year. All parishes and schools have access to those materials at www.vocationlessons.com with access code: CinciVocations513. Please make a plan to view and use these materials in the 2016-17 School Year.
Important Dates for 2016-17 School Year
- Vocation Awareness Week: November 6-13, 2016
- World Day of Prayer for Consecrated Life: February 5, 2017
- National Catholic Sisters Week: March 5-11, 2017 (part of Women’s History Month)
- Diaconate Ordination (Cathedral of St. Peter in Chains): Saturday, April 29, 2017
- World Day of Prayer for Vocations: May 7, 2017
- Priesthood Ordination: Saturday, May 20, 2017
Elder High School Discernment Group: Starting this Fall, the Vocation Office, with the help of seminarian Jarred Kohn will be running an early morning discernment group once a week at Elder High School. This group is open to any student in grades 9-12 who is interested in seeking God’s plan for his life. Each meeting will consist of prayer and discussion on a topic that will help the participant discern more clearly his vocation. All interested men are asked to contact their pastor or Wayne Topp in the Vocation Office at 513-421-3131 x.2891 or email@example.com.
July 8-9, 2016: Junior High Vocation Retreat: On Friday and Saturday, July 8-9, 2016 Our Lady of the Holy Spirit Center is hosting a junior high vocation retreat for young men in grades 6-8. Cast Out Into the Deep offers young men an opportunity to learn more about various male vocations in the church, pray in adoration and Holy Mass and meet other young men who are exploring their call. There will also be time for recreation and relaxation. Those interested are asked to contact Anne at firstname.lastname@example.org or 513-351-9800 x.302. You can also register at www.olhsc.org. Click here for the flyer.
July 15-17: Glenmary Mission Trip: Starting at Glenmary’s Headquarters in Fairfield, Ohio. Visit with Glenmary priests and brothers. Share in community prayer and reflection. Meet other men 18-46 who are discerning their call. Contact us: 513-881-7411 or http://www.glenmary.org/vocationinfo/. Click here for the flyer.
July 17: Coffee and Conversation: On Sunday July 17, join the Franciscan Sisters of the Poor for their 10am Mass followed by Coffee & Conversation and a small art display at St. Clare Chapel, 60 Compton Rd., 45215. Paintings done by our sisters will be available for a nominal donation. All are welcome! Ruthy75@gmail.com or 513-761-9040 x.132
July 24 – 27: Come and See – Sisters of Notre Dame de Namur
Woman between the ages of 18 and 50 discerning a call to religious life? You are invited to be part of a gathering in Cincinnati Ohio to experience the Charism of the Sisters of Notre Dame de Namur. Meet many of our Sisters, visit local communities and ministries, learn about our worldwide mission and come to know our founder, St. Julie Billiart. Contact Sister Kristin Matthes by June 30th email@example.com or 240-863-1916. Click here for the flyer.
We are excited to release another look at this year’s priesthood ordination! Not only does this allow us to celebrate again the ordination of our 7 new priests, but also it gives a brief explanation of each of the elements of the ordination ceremony! Check it out and let us know what you thought.
Many thanks again the Catholic Telegraph for their great work in providing such a complete look at the priesthood ordination. If you haven’t seen the trailer or the full Mass, I highly recommend taking the time to view those as well!
The Catholic Telegraph today released a video of the complete ceremony from the Priesthood Ordination for the Archdiocese of Cincinnati that took place on May 21, 2016 at the Cathedral of St. Peter in Chains. Congratulations to the newly ordained: Father Tim Fahey, Father Matt Feist, Father Chris Geiger, Father Alex McCullough, Father Eric Roush, Father Jason Williams and Father Sean Wilson.
Posted here is the trailer of the ordination Mass. For the full length video go here.
Also, click here to view a gallery of photos taken by the Catholic Telegraph.
The May edition of The Catholic Telegraph is about to hit news stands and front steps and we are excited to read the interviews of the 10 men who will be ordained this year from Mount St. Mary’s Seminary of the West. Seven of these men will be ordained on May 21, 2016 for the Archdiocese of Cincinnati!!
Go here to read what else will be filling the pages of the next Telegraph!